Tribute: This Valentine’s Day writing occurred two years ago to the day, just a few months after returning from the most wonderful experience I have ever known, half a world away, as the #1 Bucket List item was lived in Australia – specifically, The Twelve Apostles National Park. It wasn’t just a plan, it was a miracle; having been long-term underemployed, this trip would not have ever been except that two people were ready and determined to make the sacrifices and plans happen. It is a key to understanding the dynamics of making dreams real, finding how friendship and relating can reach far beyond the norm to the incredible.
On this date it was announced I would need two more eye surgeries, having had three on my Birthday just 2 1/2 weeks prior. It is my reminder and hopefully yours that a Day of Love such as this is more than a day hopefully, it should be a life.-BA
LOVE is the drive that accomplishes impossibilities! Love…works…miracles.
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Matty and I were reading this inclusion on the topic, one of the best written and most thoughtful examinations of the word LOVE seen in a long time. He and I had been studying the Scriptures from its Jewish roots. He had been the catalyst, in fact, of the studies by request. It comes on the heels of the writer’s sense that ‘verbal inflation’ has devalued language – and he cites others like Stan Carey of Macmillan (as in the Dictionary), CS Lewis, Montaigne and yes – even God. After all, Love is the supreme attribute of the creator of all according to all we learn of God. (I realize we may have lost agnostics and atheists at this point, but I beg your indulgence to read on – you may end up agreeing or at least be intrigued with what’s below in the end.)
From man’s origins love was first relegated to people; that was needed to propagate the species after all. From there love seemed to flourish on to other beings, then things. We end up loving cherished stuff along with other ideas, ideals, trinkets, baubles, sound, sights, feelings, tastes, well…the list is endless. And now we’re zooming into the big Love Day, and even I find myself thinking back to the lyrics of Bo Diddley: ‘who do you love’?
If one realizes the extent of what love is and does: it is not self-serving; it does not boast; it is kind; it is honest; it is never envious, malicious or devious; it will ‘go the distance’ with the object of one’s desire; it has no jealousy or suspicion but trusts by mutual engagement; it never forces or captures but instead fosters the other’s strength and bears up under weakness. Here’s the link: http://www.aish.com/ci/s/Valentines-Day-Love.html
You may have seen ‘The Legend Of St. Valentine’ which I think got included in an old thread here; if not, let me put this to where it is convenient. When I was married (on V-day), this was the dedication of what love meant to me – unfortunately the wife abandoned all her vows within 30 days, but things like that can happen. It did not sour my love of V-day nor my love of this story. That link (which is a pretty good and thorough treatise): http://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=159
[The term] ‘love’ is not a fanciful, light-hearted jest – even when [being] light-hearted about it. It is based on dedication, and from there so much more that it would take all day to describe. Love has weight, value. Not a cheap word. [Addendum: to those whom I deliberately exchange the Love word, you know as well how precious and valuable this word is, a priceless gift, born from time, trust and understanding.] And maybe that’s what we all need to affirm on Valentines Day. Who we truly love, we should love with all. Why we love, we should know fully. How we love, that should be with the other being the one fully engaged from your advance and desire. People we love should actually FEEL loved, right? We would want nothing less. That is the best indication of love’s highest – the other over self, and vice versa. That is truly ‘one love’. May each of us not only be love, but find the love we want to be.